Many women are uncomfortable promoting themselves – in writing, and even more in speaking. In business, this is a problem. You need to be able to showcase your skills and talents. People want to know why they should do business with you.
Here are some ways to make this easier for yourself:
Ask Yourself Questions
Set aside any self-blame or criticism about your discomfort. Then gently ask yourself some questions to see what the emotions really are. Just try to be open to any info you get without judgment – it’s just information! Ask yourself:
- If I did toot my own horn, what would I be afraid of? Really listen for illogical or childish answers – remember this is right-brain stuff and not logical. Those fears and belief may go back a long ways.
- What’s the benefit to staying quiet and in the background? There’s some benefit or you wouldn’t be doing it. Right? Some aspect of you think its gonna be safer to NOT toot your own horn.
Getting The Answers
You can get the answers for yourself in various ways. Try one or more of the following:
- Journal about the question.
- Write the question with your dominant hand and the answer with your non-dominant hand. It may be hard to read, but you’ll be amazed at what comes out on the paper!
- Type the answer with your eyes closed. You’ll access more subconscious information this way.
- Zero in on where you feel it in your body and ask that body part what it has to tell you.
What To Do With This Info
Many times realizing what’s going on will be enough to let the old story go. That old belief that it’s not good to promote yourself.
Then start practicing speaking up about yourself. And congratulate yourself every step of the way. Keep those positive emotions engaged, and that will help you the next time an opportunity arises to toot your horn.
And if you need some outside help, I offer coaching with a rapid change technique that permanently releases those old inner blocks to speaking up. Just contact me.